What to Say at a Time of Loss

Have you ever been at a loss of what to say when a friend or loved one has passed away?  Most of us have been at a loss of words especially when we have no idea about the eternal state of the individual who has passed away.  You see, for the Christian, this is a "home going."  For the non-Christian, it truly is passing away.  Scripture is clear that all souls will live forever but not all will experience eternal bliss with God the Father. 

Many things can be said for the one who knows the Lord as their Savior such as:

• Praise God, they are now home!
• Their hope is now fulfilled in Christ.
• They are now healed and rejoicing forever.
• We will be able to enjoy their presence again.
• This is not a "good bye" but a "see you later."
• There is no more pain or sorrow.
• They are able to rest in God's presence.  
• They have left a big mark on my own life and many others.
• They lived as an example of Christ-likeness.
• They will indeed be missed but we are thankful they are with Christ.

For the non-Christian it is very difficult to know what  to say.  If we were to say what Scripture says it would paint a horrific picture about their eternal state now in Hell.  The greatest things that can said are for those who remain.  We can always express gratitude and thankfulness for the deceased but how do we help cast the light of the Gospel for those who remain and don't know Jesus Christ.  Some of the following things could be said:

• I am praying for you and your family.
• I will be in touch with you and I would like to come alongside of you during this time.
• I am praying for God to sustain you (God can do this for the lost as well.)
• I am praying for God to meet your every need.
• God was not caught off guard; He remains in control.
• God loves your family so much.  I'd love to share and meet again with you.

Of course the things that are said to those that don't know Christ are harder because the reality is grim.  However, God can always work through those who don't know Him through circumstances and the tenderness of the situation.  Many people will allow us to talk about God during this time that they would not allow at any other time. Let's see this loss of life to be able to share about the gift of live through Jesus Christ.